Turning to One Another

Written by Addison Duane, Ph.D.

I usually come to these blog posts with some research or an opportunity to think together but today, I have a different offering. The world is so heavy right now. So much death. So much suffering. It can feel all-consuming.

So, I invite us to sit with this poem. To dream about what it means to be together, especially during hard times.

There is no power greater than a community discovering what it cares about.
Ask “What’s possible?” not “What’s wrong?” Keep asking.

Notice what you care about.
Assume that many others share your dreams.

Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters.
Talk to people you know.
Talk to people you don’t know.
Talk to people you never talk to.

Be intrigued by the differences you hear.
Expect to be surprised.
Treasure curiosity more than certainty.

Invite in everybody who cares to work on what’s possible.
Acknowledge that everyone is an expert about something.
Know that creative solutions come from new connections.

Remember, you don’t fear people whose story you know.
Real listening always brings people closer together.

Trust that meaningful conversations can change your world.

Rely on human goodness. Stay together.

—Margaret Wheatley, “Turning to One Another,” 2002

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